I’ve been doing some research on FEAR and what more appropriate day to share my thoughts than on Halloween. What I’ve read and heard is contrary to what I’ve experienced as a father. The research tell us that our fear comes naturally as a part of our mental construct. Fear comes from our ability to survive. Fear keeps us focused on the people, places or things that challenges our existence on earth and if we control those elements then we control our destiny.
As I watch my children grow up and learn there is one thing that is for certain, they have no idea of what fear is. Whether it be jumping off the bed, eating food off of the floor or running onto the street, they do not understand nor do they care about the circumstances of their actions. But if fear is a natural, physiological part of our DNA, why is this the case?
The only thing I can think of is that fear is a trained behavior that comes by way of our experiences and most importantly our circle of influences. The community of influencers that interact with our children can impose fear on them. Sure we don’t want kids to eat off the floor or play with electricity but we do want them to be curious and attain exposure to learning and development.
Take yourself for example. Did anyone tell you that you can’t do something because they did it and failed or they suffered some form of loss and embarrassment? Did you listen to them and not even try for yourself? How long did it take you to overcome that perceived fear?
I’m not saying that all fear is bad but we should consider how we over impose our fears onto the next generation of leaders and innovators.